My Tribe: How Online Networking Helped Me Find My People

June 16, 20154 Comments

A misfit among misfits is how I’ve felt for most of my life. Growing up, I never really fit in anywhere. Sure I had friends, but I didn’t fit in with preppy kids because I was too poor. I didn’t fit in with the stoner kids, because I just didn’t look like them much less partake of what earned them their moniker. I didn’t fit in with the nerds or punkers, either. As a teenager, I was big into the hippie culture of the late ’60’s, long before there were hipsters or whatever the hell they call themselves today. I walked around with peace signs on my jeans jacket, hair in a long braid down past my butt. My musical tastes ran a spectrum most kids scoffed at. I stuck out a little bit more than your average misfit.

Once I went to college I found a few more misfits like me, but still they weren’t my tribe. I wasn’t into the drugs, sleeping around and partying that many of them were. I had a job to do, get through school, so I could start earning a living wage and get on with my life.

Eventually I married and had kids and changed careers. I wanted to write. I had wanted to be a writer since I was in high school, but I, and others around me, brushed it off as not being a viable selection as far as careers were concerned. It took me until well into my thirties to realize that that was a bunch of B.S.

I dipped my toe into the writing pool around age 36 and got a few things published. However, ever the pessimist that I am, I backed off on my goals, believing that it was a fluke. I wanted to bask in that success and not have it ruined by a bazillion rejections. Not a bright move, in hindsight.

Thankfully, through the wonder of blogging and writing, I found a writer much like me and she encouraged me to keep going. While I had no end of encouragement at home from my Sweet Babboo and my friends, this encouragement was different. This came from someone who understood the torture that is writing, the push and pull of banging around in your own head for hours a day putting words to paper.

Then she formed a secret group of writers who could get together and share ideas, ask questions and just be themselves. In that group I’ve found a sort of Shangri-La. In the few months that I’ve been there, I’ve learned more about the writing business, blogging and freelancing than I have in the past 5 years all by myself. I’ve found a group of people who share the same neuroses as me, who are haunted by the same writerly fears as me, and who get that sometimes we need a swift kick in the pants as motivation to keep going.

And they are unbelievably kind, giving, open people. They have banded together virtually and in person by attending a conference together. Then we found out that my friend’s secret group isn’t all that secret. There are people desperate to join the fun. My friend, whether intentionally or not, created a small writer’s community filled with some of the most amazing talent the internet has to offer today. And I cannot tell you how much I am amazed.

All of this started because a lady in Maine reached out to me one day to say she liked my writing. That’s it. A stranger took the leap and contacted me. From there I found my tribe because she grabbed me by my virtual sleeve and dragged me along with her. And I’m so glad she did.

Even though I am truly a fledgling writer when it comes to freelance work, I don’t feel as if I don’t belong. I am writing and sending out submissions daily. There are nearly 140 people in the blogosphere who know my name and come to my rescue at the slightest mention of needing help. It’s a marvelous little world and it speaks to the power of networking. It speaks to the generosity of our species.

Never have I been more proud to be called writer.

What about you? Have you found your tribe? If so, how? Leave your story in the comments.

Liebster Award

June 1, 20152 Comments

There is something funny and cool about this whole internet thing that I love. I’m not sure if I love it because I’m an introvert and hate socializing, or because I’m lazy about relationships. My money is on a little bit of both. So many of us bloggers put our little word babies out there into the great world wide web hoping that someone somewhere may read them and like them enough to click a link, leave a comment, or just tap that little star down at the bottom saying they liked what was going on. Some of us (Who? Me?) live and die by those little clicks as if our very self-esteem is tethered to them. Recently, a lady named Mandelynn stumbled upon my word babies enough to subscribe and, by golly, left an award in her wake.

She left me the Liebster Award. What is that? Damned if I know. I ran over to her blog to check out the awesomeness, because the internet is nothing if not stalker heaven. She is actually a bit of an accomplished writer. Truly. Click on her name up in that top paragraph and go see for yourself. It is socially sanctioned stalking so don’t feel dirty.

I’ll wait for you to return.

*sound of off-key humming*

Done? Okay, here are the rules, which I plan on promptly breaking because, well, I’m weird that way.

Acknowledge and thank the blog who nominated you….CHECK
Look for an award image that you like, and post it on your blog…..CHECK (Thanks, Mandelynn!)
Answer the 11 questions asked by the person/blog who nominated you.
Nominate 11 blogs
Let the bloggers know that you nominated them.
Give them 11 questions to answer.

I like awards like this. I know they are silly and most bloggers think they are stupid, but I find them interesting. They are a great way for your readers to get to know a little bit about you. They can find out all sorts of unimportant stuff and file it away for if they ever meet you, or if you happen to be a Jeopardy question someday. You never know.

Here’s the 11 questions she left me:

1. Favorite comedian: I had no idea the questions would be this hard. Picking a favorite comedian is like picking a favorite child. I had to narrow my list to people who haven’t been in lots of movies because those folks I consider actors instead of comedians. After much thought my favorite 2 are Denis Leary (click the link to hear some of his stuff, but be warned: LOADS OF BAD WORDS, so no work viewing or kids running around) and Jim Breuer (click this link if you’re a parent. YOU WILL LOVE IT. Safe for work and kids). My Sweet Babboo and I went to see both these comics when they were in Cleveland and laughed ourselves into comas.

2. Mimosas: morning or all day: Here’s where the rule following gets hinky for me. I am a teatotaller. I have no personal beef with alcohol except that the taste of it makes me want to throw up. Once in a purple moon I will imbibe. I will throw a splash of DisAronno in my Dr. Pepper or a pina colada. And by splash, I mean less than half a shot glass or it’s too much for me. In eighteen years of marriage I’ve managed to kill exactly one bottle of DisAronno. Such a lush, pbbt. And I’m always the person at Christmas who picks up the cookies or candy made with liquor regardless of how much I try not to. So, I say Mimosas? Nevah, dahling. Nevah.

3. Blog to live or live to blog? Um, here’s where I’m pathetic. I used to have another blog. I loved it but felt it stifled what I really wanted to accomplish which was publishing. I have since seen that I have to blog or write in one way or another. It’s the way I’m wired. So I freelance on the side and blog when the mood strikes me. Sometimes that’s daily. Sometimes that’s monthly. Regardless, blogging is a necessary evil for me.

4. Describe myself in 6 words.

Mother, Wife, Pet owner, Bookworm, Writer, and Nerd. I embrace the nerd part most especially.

5. What do you blog about? Everything. Every damn thing. Much of what I share here and on other parenting sites has to do with being the mother of two boys. Sometimes I share what’s going on in my writing life. Mostly, it’s whatever strikes my fancy. Most of what I write is funny or poignant. The super serious stuff I write about is for my eyes only. The world needs more funny and less drama, don’t you think?

6. How many times have you seen Pitch Perfect? Oh, Mandelynn. Your poor, poor soul. You have stumbled across the one person in the universe who has never seen this movie and has no plans to see it. My tastes in movies run more towards the horror and superhero genres. There’s a reason God gave me only sons. I rarely watch anything remotely girly. Now if Robert Downey Jr. or Batman were in Pitch Perfect, I promise that I’d have seen that numerous times.

7. My favorite pie: Anything but rhubarb or lemon. I can’t stand those. And here’s another wacky fact about me. I hate pie crust. I will almost always eat the center and leave the crust. My sister-in-law thinks that’s sacrilegious. I think it’s like eating a sandwich without the crust. Tomato, tomahto.

8. When I grow up I want to be…. Half as funny as Tina Fey, half as rich as Donald Trump and twice as reclusive as Thomas Harris. Does anyone even know what that dude looks like?

9. My worst job: Working as a writer for a company who paid me $2 per post for internet content. They required original content with deadlines that asked for break-neck speed. I was good at it. After 60 hours of work I earned about $40. I worked there one month and didn’t break $200. Somebody was getting fat off my work and it wasn’t me.

10. If I could pick my last words what would they be? Take care of my three guys and love them as much as I did.

11. Princess Bride: best movie ever or best movie of the century? Um, you’re gonna hate me for saying this. Princess Bride is not even in my top ten faves. If I had to go to a deserted island and could only watch one movie over and over again it would have to be something with Robin Williams in it. He’s my guy. Always will be.

So, there you have it. My 11 answers. I hope they didn’t bore you too much. I pose this challenge to every blogger that stops by to read. Answer these 11 that I’ve completed or make up your own. Break the rules. Fly by the seat of your pants. Participate. Or, if you’re a real rebel, don’t, but say you did.

Everyone answer one thing for me, though: School’s almost over for the summer. What are you going to do to make sure you survive your munchkins being home 24/7? Seriously. I need ideas.

Goodbye, linear phone conversations

May 14, 2015May 14, 2015Leave a comment

I was never a huge fan of talking on the phone. I’m a highly distracted person to begin with and walking around with a phone attached to my ear is not something I enjoy. However, I never knew how much I’d miss a straight forward phone conversation until I became a mother. No one understands that more than your friends who have children. Other moms have gotten the pass to the club and the secret decoder ring that makes linear phone conversations as stimulating as decaf coffee.

Just the other day I was on the phone with my writer friend Sarah Cottrell. She has two young boys so she is totally a member of my tribe. We were talking writing and the conversation went like this:

Sarah: Just checking in to see if everything is alright……Hey, I’m on the phone. Remember, we talked about this.

Me: Oh, yeah. I’m fine……. Tony, stop putting your face so close to Rosie’s. Do you want to get bitten? Again?…… I’m just taking a short break to get focused on my writing goals.

Sarah: Is Rosie your dog?….Who wrote on my wall?!

Me: Yeah, She’s ten years old and grouchy……I’m not going to yell at her for biting you if you don’t. Get. OUT. OF. HER. FACE!….I haven’t written anything new in weeks.

Sarah: I was wondering…..Finn, you need to keep that in the Kung Fu Corner, do you hear me?…because I saw your Facebook post…..IN. THE. CORNER, MISTER.

Me: Yeah, I just get overstimulated….Seriously? Jimmy, did it occur to you to just ask?…by social media sometimes. You know what I mean?

Sarah: Yeah, I can see how that would happen. (Muffled talking that I can’t comprehend) We probably all should take a break.

Me: It’s crazy, isn’t it? I should be concentrating on the essays……..Where did I put my pen? Jim, have you seen my pen?.…….. with deadlines that are coming up anyway.

Sarah: I have so much writing to do. I’m swamped…..Alright, now you have to sit on the bottom step and think about what you did.

Jim: Hey, is that your friend from Maine?

Me: Yes.

Jim: Good, she can kick you in the butt and get you back on track.

Sarah: Is that your husband?……..Yes, I love you, too.

Me: Yes. He and the kids are equal opportunity annoyers…..Geez, Rosie! Just step all over my feet! Ow!

Sarah: That’s funny….Oh, don’t cry……Hey I’ve got to go. Poor, Max is crying.

Me: Aw, poor guy. Talk to you soon.

You see, it’s phone conversations like that that make private messaging on Facebook so much easier to follow. Granted, I have to write down my every thought, but the person I’m chatting with doesn’t have to be exposed to the mundane details of my life. I recently chatted with my best friend, Renee, about an upcoming event that I’m excited about, and she missed out on me having to remind Tony for the nine millionth time to use a pot holder when pouring the water for hot chocolate. She also missed out on me reminding Jimmy that it was trash night and the cans needed to go to the street. And she didn’t have to be exposed to Rosie’s vocal stylings while Tony practiced the clarinet. That private message made me sound so much more together and with it. So much more like a real person.

Oh, well. I’m a writer so text messaging should be right up my alley, right?

Open Mic Night: The part of being a writer that terrifies me

April 16, 2015April 16, 20154 Comments

Our local library

Let’s face it. We all have preconceived notions. Most people, I’m willing to bet, think that writing is a pretty easy gig. You just sit in a chair, make things up for a few hours a day, and, if you’re any good, you get published and become famous, raking in cash like Stephen King. You probably think writers have “people” who do the mundane things like marketing and setting up speaking events. You would also be unbelievably wrong. We, the writers do all of it. Unless we can afford publicists, only our own sweat equity goes into making the publication ball roll and keep rolling. Even with a publicist, an editor and a publisher, writers are expected to put in their fair share.

Tuesday night I attended my second speaking event as a writer. The first one went well and I didn’t feel like I did terrible, but definitely felt like I had some room for improvement. I was one of seven authors there to hock my book. I took what I learned from that event and applied it to Tuesday. My second speaking event, Open Mic Night at our local library, featured the members of my writers’ group as well as one brave soul who came to share. I was first out of the gate because our leader thought my writing was the most relatable to the audience (I write mostly essays about being a mom or how I have a tendency to screw up even the most mundane of tasks) and would make a good opener. Silly man.

I prepped for the event in all the usual ways: reading out loud until I was hoarse, timing myself to get the pacing right and so I didn’t sound like Seabiscuit on his way to a photo finish. I also took my prescribed, extra anxiety meds. Without those, I’d be in the bathroom and nowhere near a podium.

Almost stone….

Nothing prepares me for those terrifying moments in front of a room full of people expecting me to be awesome. There’s no way to set that bar a little lower. As I stood there, racing through my essay, I heard my voice begin to quiver. My throat began to run dry. The worst of all were my muscles. I could feel them systematically tightening up, threatening to turn me to stone. All I could envision was falling over, right where I stood. I hated it. All that prep for nothing.

When I was done I raced to my seat and snatched up my husband’s hand. He kissed me and reassured me, but I still felt like a rabbit facing down a cat. What was I thinking? I can’t do this.

Then I listened to all my writers’ group members. And I realized something. I am surrounded by crazy talented people. They all did so very well, causing goosebumps to form on my arms, bringing audience members to tears. I heard a few gasp. All I could think was, “What the hell am I doing? I do not belong among these people.”

I know that you’ll say that I shouldn’t be comparing myself, but you know what? Everyone does. But the simply fact remains for me that I do not feel like I’ve earned my place at the table. I went to my truck afterward and burst out crying because I felt like a fraud.

Jim told me one thing that bolsters me, but just barely.

He said, “Miranda, the worst writers are the ones who are convinced of their talent.”

I don’t know if he’s right. I don’t know if I have what it takes to do anything more than entertain my family with my writing.

What I do know is that I want to do more. I want to be more. I’ve got the gumption.

Do I have the talent?

So what say you? Ever have that crisis of conscience? Ever doubt what everyone else says is true? How do you lift yourself above those moments and keep on keeping on?

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He called me “writer”

March 13, 20155 Comments

Like many writers I know, I have periods of massive self-doubt. My latest dance with this particularly bad partner left me blocked for weeks on end, unable to write a single word and feeling every moment of the failure I was convinced I was. I reached out to my equally neurotic writer friends online. They all assured me that they, too, suffered from the same malady from time to time. They all reassured me that it would pass. One of my writing cohorts even shared the fact that the last time she felt that way she found an acceptance to be in an anthology in her email. She told me the same thing would happen to me. I’d read her work. I was not her. Who was I kidding?

Most of what I do as a writer is just me banging around inside my own head, fingers flying over a keyboard. All of the blood, sweat and tears I pour into my writing is done in the wee hours of the morning, before I go to bed. The kids don’t see it because they are sleeping. My husband doesn’t see it because he’s usually working.

The only job any of them see me do is what makes me a Mom. They see me cook dinner, do laundry, scrub toilets and cart their butts around from place to place. I am Mom and that’s all that I would ever be to them.

Or so I thought.

I was sitting in the lobby of a DoubleTree Inn when I felt my chest swell a little. I was overhearing my husband talk with the man at the counter as he checked us in.

“So what brings you to Pittsburgh, sir,” the man asked.

“Oh, my wife has a conference or audition or something,” Jim said. “I’m not sure what it is, exactly. I just know it’s for writers.”

“Here?” the man said.

“Yes,” Jim said. “It’s a big step for my wife. She’s a shy woman and she’s very brave to come here.”

“What is it for?”

“I’m fuzzy on the details. I’m just the chauffeur,” Jim laughed. “All I know is it’s a big deal for her. She’s a talented writer. Very talented.”

With that, the man gave my husband the room key and we were on our way. It was late. We were tired and I was misty-eyed. We rode in the elevator and I couldn’t take my eyes off of him. I couldn’t stop smiling and crying at the same time.

Because he does get it.

Because he called me something other than Mom.

Because he called me by the most coveted of labels in my world.

Because he called me “writer.”

Chasing Liberty by Theresa Linden

February 8, 2015February 8, 20158 Comments

I’ve been thinking about February because it was one year ago this month that I self-published my first book Lemonade and Holy Stuff. It was my maiden voyage into publishing and I wanted to do something awesome to celebrate this milestone in my life. I also wanted to pair that with my desire to always give back, to pay forward whatever goodness comes my way. So, my goal became simple. It was time to give away some goodness to a lucky reader, and that goodness needed to lift up a fellow writer.

I decided to interview my friend Theresa Linden. She is an author who is local to my area. I met her through our library’s writer’s group. And I am beyond grateful that I did. She is a shy, mother of three awesome kids. She is whip smart and crazy talented. This past November she published her first book Chasing Liberty.

Used with permission of the author.

From the back cover:

Liberty 554-062466-84 of Aldonia lives in a responsible society that cares for the earth and everyone on it. They have learned to balance resource consumption with replacement initiatives, unavoidable pollution with clean-environment efforts. Science ensures that every baby born is healthy. The government ensures that every baby born is needed. All are cared for, taught, and given a specific duty to perform, their unique contribution to society. Why is Liberty so unsatisfied? In less than two weeks, Liberty must begin her vocation. Every girl in Aldonia wishes she had Liberty’s vocation. Liberty would rather flee from Aldonia and live on her own, independent of the all-controlling government, the Regimen Custodia Terra. The high electrical Boundary Fence crushes any thought of escape. The ID implant imbedded in her hand makes it impossible to hide. She has no choice but to submit. Liberty is slated to be a Breeder. As vocation day draws near, a man with an obsession for Liberty attacks her and injects her with a drug. She’s about to lose consciousness when someone comes to her rescue, a man in a mottled cape and dark glasses. She wakes in an underground facility where people watch over Aldonia with an array of monitors and surveillance equipment. These people are full of secrets, but she discovers one thing: they rescue a man scheduled for re-education. They rescued him. They can rescue her.

There’s also a book trailer you can watch.

http://www.bookreels.com/sci-fifantasy/chasing-liberty/

I gave Theresa a list of questions to help you get to know her, her writing, and her process a little better.

Where did you get the idea for Chasing Liberty?
I am one of those people who shouts at the TV when I watch the news. I can’t believe some of the things that are going on in our world. I’ve discovered actual groups that consider all life forms equal: a human has no more value than a mushroom. I’ve learned about new proposed laws, questionable scientific developments, and invasive uses of technology. Developments in morality and ethics do not seem to be on a par. Faith, family and freedom are often under attack. I can’t help but wonder where we are headed. As I writer, I don’t just wonder. I write! In a way, this story emphasizes the importance of faith, family and freedom by showing a society that has lost all three, a society where the earth has been elevated above people.

What character in your book do you love to hate and why?
I’m torn between Sid and Dr. Supero. Both of these characters are extremely selfish. Sid is obsessed with Liberty and will do anything to be with her, but he doesn’t really love her in a way that puts the other first. He doesn’t care what she wants.
And then there’s Dr. Supero, a master in warped ideologies. Vain, arrogant and closed-minded, he feels the need to control everything and resents that he can’t control Liberty. When he receives traumatic personal news, instead of facing his situation, he transfers his anger to Liberty.

Is there a sequel to Chasing Liberty and if so, what can readers expect?
Chasing Liberty is the first in a trilogy. The second book nears completion and the third is in outline form. You can expect even more action in the second book, Testing Liberty. The 3-D games mentioned in Chasing Liberty become an important part of Testing Liberty. We will learn more about Liberty, her experiences growing up under the RCT, and how she met Sid. We will also discover more about the Torva and Dedrick’s most uncomfortable encounter with them.

If there’s one message you want readers to walk away with after reading Chasing Liberty, what is it?
I didn’t write with a message in mind, but I see a message in my story. Americans have always valued freedom and have seen it as a God-given right. Our country was founded on it, but it isn’t something we should take for granted. When a government is allowed to grow too big, it can threaten the freedom of the individual. I suppose the message in my story is to question everything in our culture, weighing things in the balance, so to speak. There are things in our culture, many brought about by our government, that degrade rather than protect the individual, the family, and our God-given rights. Abraham Lincoln once said, “America will never be destroyed from the outside. If we falter and lose our freedoms, it will be because we destroyed ourselves.”

What piece of advice would you give an aspiring fiction writer about crafting characters? For instance, how much do you plan out beforehand and how much just comes to you as you write?
I love creating characters! I believe it is important to develop a good character profile for each main and secondary character before beginning to write. Main characters need to have likes and dislikes, strengths and weaknesses, a past and goals. They also become more realistic when they have a habit(s) or idiosyncrasies that a reader can relate to or find humorous. I have even gone so far as to conduct character interviews so I can learn how they think. I want to see everything from a particular character’s frame of mind, recalling his or her memories as the story unfolds and reacting in ways unique to the character. When I can slip into a character’s mind and think his or her thoughts for the scene, I’m ready to write.
I am sure that I must be a sight to my family when they see me writing, my face contorting with the mood of my point of view character. “What’s the matter, dear?” “What?” I snap out of character and smile. “You look mad.” “No, I’m not mad. Liberty is.”

What is the hardest part about writing for you?
As a wife, homeschooler and mother of three boys, finding uninterrupted time is always a challenge. That aside, I find the research the hardest part because it is so time-consuming. Then I want to make sure my story is going to work before I begin writing, so creating a solid outline is the second hardest part.

Do you have any writing rituals?
Yes and no. I write at the table in our dining room, so first, I clear the table of every distraction. Then I get something to drink: coffee, tea or water. Depending upon the stage of writing, I turn on some music—I do this when I’m ready to go deep into character and write a scene.
But then again, I think I can write anywhere, anytime. Once our van broke down and left me stranded three hours from home. I had to wait for my husband to pick me up, so I borrowed sheets of paper and a pen from a nearby shop and wrote my heart out in the back of our van!

What is the most important lesson you’ve learned about writing so far?
Hmmm. I have learned so many lessons that feel vital to the craft. So many facets must come together to make the work shine. I believe the most important lesson I’ve learned is to work hard on developing a good story with a solid plot and interesting characters. It saves time and frustration when the research and outlining are done in advance, so that I go into the story with a general idea of what happens. I say ‘general’ because characters don’t always stick to the plot, so it’s important to allow room for deviation.

So, your dream as a writer:
My dream . . . I’m sitting at a comfortable desk in front of a new computer. Maps, diagrams and pictures related to my stories hang on three walls. A bookshelf lines the fourth wall, holding reference materials and writing books, and books by all my favorite authors and by new authors. A glass door opens to a balcony that overlooks a lush garden . . .
Or . . . I would be satisfied just to be able to write all the stories that are in my mind, get them published, and find my audience. Every book is not for every person. I really want to find the people who would enjoy my stories as much as I do. I think that’s what every author wants. You want to find your readers and make them happy!

In an effort to help Theresa realize at least a portion of her dream, I’m going to give one lucky reader of this blog a free copy of Chasing Liberty!!!! Entering to win is super simple. 1. Comment “I want in” at the bottom of this post. 2. Simply share this post with the hashtag #LindenLiberty and be sure to tag me @MirandaGargasz. Each share gets your name entered into a hat and one lucky winner will be drawn on Valentine’s Day. Get to sharing and win this amazing book!!!!!

Do what scares you

January 28, 20152 Comments

How many times have I heard that? As a writer and an introvert the list of ideas that scares me is long and intimidating.

When I decided to throw my hat into the writer’s ring, I did so tentatively, cautiously. I acted on my desire to write since childhood, a dream I abandoned as a teenager because I thought I’d never be able to make a living at it. Writing was the one gift that I was given that I truly loved, and I wanted to share that gift with the world. Just the thought of that vulnerability, exposing the soft underbelly of what little talent I may have, was almost debilitating in its scariness.

My first blog scared the shit out of me in the beginning. I perched my hands on the edge of the keyboard scared to death that not only would I not earn any readers, but I’d be the laughing-stock of the internet. At my husband’s urging, I did it. And I don’t regret it.

I began Scattering Moments in 2011. It wasn’t a great blog but it was good. I met quite a few writer friends there and I learned a lot about what writing my audience liked and what my strengths as a writer were. Eventually, I closed that site down because I hadn’t quite learned what I should hold back on a blog and what I needed to keep for publication.

I joined our local library’s writer’s group and, excited as I was, I was terrified to share what I had written. I was intimidated by the other members at first because a couple of them actually went to college to hone their craft. I hadn’t done that. My degree was in Elementary Education. What if I went there and they heard what I had written and thought I wasn’t much of an attribute for their group? What was I, really? I felt like a washed-up failure of a teacher who dipped her toe into the Mommy Blogging universe because being a stay-at-home-mom was driving me bat shit crazy. It turned out that all the worry was for naught. Not only did I actually have something to give the group, the feedback I got from the essays I shared helped bolster my self-esteem and gave me the courage I needed to keep going. It gave me the courage to publish my first book, Lemonade and Holy Stuff: Collected Essays.

Lemonade and Holy Stuff‘s publication has been such a gift for me. Not only do I feel vindicated as a writer because so many readers have loved it, but I also met an amazing string of women writers as a result. I really feel as if I’ve found my tribe with writers like Sarah Cottrell, Tori Nelson, Lisa Kramer, Kathryn McCullough, Theresa Linden and so very many more. (Please click on their names to check out their work. They are amazing women.)

Because I believe that doing what scares us is also what helps us grow, I’m sticking my neck out again. This Saturday, armed with an essay and my much more travel friendly husband (I get lost after the end of my street), I’m going to Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. There I will meet the folks in charge of that city’s incarnation of Listen To Your Mother, a professional show that lends a voice to motherhood. I will be auditioning.

My knees are knocking.

I’m losing sleep because I’m terrified.

But, I’m doing it. I’m going to share my story before an audience of people. I’m hoping to come back with an invitation to be part of the experience. Even if I don’t, that’s okay. The only true failure is in never trying, and that simply will not do.

Musings from A Misfit Among Misfits

by Miranda Gargasz

Tag: writing